Dear Deviled Angel,
My girlfriend has been eating like a horse since like the second week we dated. I see that she’s gaining weight too. I asked her a couple of times why she was eating so much and she told me she was having a “Fat Girl” day. BOTH TIMES. Now I’ve heard of this and I know girls have it but exactly how many “Fat Girl” days a month do they have??!! My girlfriend is doing like 20!! I want to be compassionate but I also don’t want to date a whale! I mean I met her skinny.. is it too much to ask that she stay skinny??
Sounds like Ms. Orca is not having “Fat Girl Days” she’s in a “Fat Girl Daze”! But you’re right! If you met her a certain way physically then she should try to maintain that. The key here is compassion though. So you should have her over for a heart-to-heart chat and just say, “Look, honey. You’re turning into a lard-ass and that’s just not what I want to be with. Either snap out of this ‘Fat Girl Daze’ and shape up or you’re gonna get shipped out with the next traveling circus. Ok?” Make sure you smile. Everything goes down better with a smile!
“Fat Girl” Day is a politically incorrect (and sometimes offensive) way of describing a “cheat day” for dieters or just a relaxed day of eating whatever you want without any caloric concern. There’s no rule as to how many days per month is appropriate but if it seems inordinate as per her usual eating habits then it might be a sign that your girlfriend is going through something (i.e. sadness, depression, anxiety, stress). Perhaps you should gently bring it to her attention and ask if there is something going on that you could help her with. Let her know your concern is less about how much she’s eating and more about what’s causing it. You want her to be okay first and the eating habits will adjust accordingly.