Dear Deviled Angel,
My boy’s girl tried to get at me a few weeks ago and I shut it down. I told my boy and he completely flipped the script on me. He said he couldn’t trust me and hasn’t said two words to me since. He and the girl are still together and I saw her out at the club all over another dude just last week. I didn’t bother to say anything to my boy because he wasn’t speaking to me… Well a few days ago I got a car and since we live on a college campus where you can only have cars starting sophomore year I was the first of my friends to get one. The day after I got my car my boy reaches out to me saying he can’t believe it’s been so long since we talked and we should just squash the beef between us, then asked if he could borrow my car!! Am I missing something or does that seem a little dirty?
If you call the inside of the toilet in a one-bathroom, 12-bedroom (double-occupancy), Frat-house after the end of a senior year party “a little dirty” then yes; your boy’s behavior is ”a little dirty”. Tell him to grow some balls, dump that whore; and if he’s having trust issues practice doing trust-falls with an imaginary friend on the sidewalk! He should kick rocks. You don’t need his a$$.
I think your Spidey-senses are correct. Your friend sounds a bit insecure: he’s putting up with a girl who only seems to be with him until she finds the BBD (Bigger, Better Deal). Otherwise she would not have tried to talk to you and you would not have seen her draped on someone else at the club. Also because your boy waited until you had something material that was appealing to him to reach out to you and reconcile your friendship it seems a bit disingenuous and opportunistic. If this is a pattern that you’ve noticed in his interactions with others then perhaps this is who he really is and you don’t need people like that around you. However if this behavior is totally new to you then maybe you could sit him down and talk to him about it. Let him know how it made you feel and perhaps give him a do-over.